God’s intent for the family is for both parents to be present in raising their children. A child
needs both parents to flourish and to be whole.
Sometimes, what we see on the outside to be a perfect marriage could end up in divorce, so what happens to the children? Never use your child/children as a bait to get back to your ex. You have chosen your own path your children are a gift from God and did not choose their parents. Even if you and your spouse decide to go your separate ways, please take care of your children. Do not speak evil of your ex to your children, even if he or she was a monster.
We sometimes forget that our children are human beings although little in size and younger in age,
they have eyes, ears and brains. They also have emotions and can perceive things. They will one
day grow up and figure things out by themselves, but please do not damage their tender
emotions by speaking evil of each other, be civil.
I have seen some couples thrive better as friends rather than as married couples and although
they have gone their separate ways, they chose to be civil and be respectful towards each other
for the sake of their children and for old times’ sake.
“Lo children are the heritage of the Lord and the fruit of the womb its reward” (Psalm 127:3).
Dos and Don’ts of Co-Parenting
Allow each parent to enjoy visitation rights, except in an abusive or life-threatening
situation.
Do not deprive the child or children of love, care, provision and shelter.
You can still make joint decisions about the welfare of your child or children.
Avoid unnecessary drama, do not scar your child/children.
Swallow your pride or ego and make the child/children your priority.
Child support is not a punishment, it’s your financial responsibility towards your
child/children; be faithful and God will reward you.
Don’t lie about your income so as to reduce your financial responsibility towards your
child/children; God is watching and you will reap whatever you sow.
If one parent cannot meet certain obligations for genuine reasons like health challenges
or financial challenges and you have the ability to, please pick up, especially if you have
the ability to. Its no big deal.
Be kind to one another; kindness is the fruit of the Spirit.
Pray for your children, they are mighty arrows; do not allow your situation to break
them.
Never speak evil of your ex to your child/children.
Make the home a safe place for your child/children especially when they are visiting.
Your child/children can still enjoy both worlds if done with wisdom, love and the fear of
the Lord.
